Sunday, December 21, 2008

hey guys







its been long i never update this blog
first.. i screwed people like nobody's business
saying blog that never update is a stupid blog
and i ain't running stupid blog.. bla bla shit
i guess.. a lot of things are unpredictable

really.. working would never be easy
in the past.. i said study is shit study is bullshit
working is the best and all those useless words
workers told me.. study is the best, i told them dun talk shit
now.. how can i find back study life.. is in the past already

when will the world create a day where human will have a freedom life?
do whatever they wanted to do
free flow..
would this day come?
peace.. everyday is a play day

really.. i got an idea here
we will have a place where all the foods grow.. automatically.. 1/4 of the earth maybe?
where all the meats auto grow.. veggies auto grow.. fruits auto grow
and there will be computers will send to every home

if wanted to build houses for people
scientist should develop a pill where it is all computerized
and plant it in a place.. and there it grows
hmmm.. one thing that really should be on the work are doctors who will help people who is ill.. who will be giving maternity
or maybe create a pill that will instantly heals a person illness..
how about woman who give birth
can solve this problem?

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i really love solar energies
save earth from pollution
electric cars

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why people go works?
to think it deeply...
is to make people who are rich to become richer
workers work to survive, bosses hires to become richer
am i correct?
people wants.. people dreams.. power
why human do greed all this?
cant we be equal? cant we enjoy the facility on the earth together?
cant we use the same things? cant we eat the same foods?
cant we be in a same status?

what are the sun for us? why cant we fully use this natural facility
let computers all be recycling energy by solar
i know i know.. people would become lazy.. more fat.. more illness
just like the wall-e movie
but cant we just let this be the choice?
those who wanted to be healthy, those who wanted to get a lot of sickness.. is up to them
so don't say computer makes people lazy and fat
is all up to human to take care of their health

continue view this blog.. this blog would never die
take care folks

Thursday, November 27, 2008

circle of people







everybody plays a role in this world

everyone's are uniquely different

and that makes a community balance

there are criminals, there are police

there are male, there are female

there are people who loves listen, there are people who loves talk

its a concept of YinYang anyway..

there are leaders, the are followers

no leaders can lead without followers

no followers can follow without leaders

sometimes we are upset we are down.. because we see what other people have but we don't have..

we so badly wanted to be them

my advice

be yourself.. and it will get you there

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

my day

my 21st birthday come and gone
take a day leave, hang out with friends and stay at home
well, the best thing for a birthday present, is to be what you actually are on the day
for me.. freedom, rest, peace are the rewards
thanks for all the wishes and i wish you all best too

Monday, October 27, 2008

world without lights

wake up in the morning, i am still wondering why parents are siting at the couch and not out to breakfast.

Continue my sleep, and i heard the house door is opening, there are few voices, ahh.. my neighbors are here.

today both right and left side of my neighbors big day, their festive of lights, their Deepavali.

and i already can feel the taste of muruku while i am still on the bed, its their famous snacks.. it sounds muruk muruk when you chew it

my parents didnt want to wake me up as i slept quite late the day before, but knowing the temptation of Deepavali feast, i couldn't resist and i wake and straight to the dining table..

there i tasted the tosai, one of their delicious food ever happened in the history

together with mutton.. and the curries.. it is a taste have to be tasted for every individual in the world

after the breakfast, i sat down on the couch to watch the tv, bang bang bang, the explosive of fire crackers.. its a norm to the malaysian that every time there's big festival, there will be fire crackers

soon before i realized, it was 12 in the afternoon, and there she came, another side of my neighbors, she's calling us to go to their house to have lunch

even though the morning foods haven't fully digested, the urge is still pulling me over, i cannot resist good food

there i sat on table, this time all served was the same as the morning one, except the taste is different, not to say this taste is better than that one, but.. both have their own taste and that were crazy tempting

you see, is all about food, there is something in food

soon after the lunch, i went out with my friends, as today is a public holiday, so yeah, normal outing, went to cybercafes all sort..

as i mentioned, i don't have enough sleeps, so i slept at around 4pm in the evening and woke up after i heard the knock knock on my door at 6pm.

"you must come, she wanted you to come" this is what my mom told me..

it's my another neighbor!!!

and all i think is about food as my stomach really really sounding..

the timing's is all right

i sat down on my neighbors table with my family

and i dine, this time i eat rice with chicken and mutton's curries

i love Deepavali, this is a day where i can tasted all these

its a day i am looking forward in every year

thanks for all the foods

i hope that the world will still in a harmony time and getting more harmony in the next time

so that we can taste and celebrate others races others nations big time

we will live as one no matter who we are in this world

Happy Deepavali

Sunday, October 19, 2008

what is it?

sometimes, someone's way will be greatly changed if there's something who change it..

for example ;
when they were told about something from other person
when their family want them to do that way
when everyone's doing it
when you have the urge to do it
when you watch some movies
when you listen to some songs

and i mean it will GREATLY change..

like your career, someone bring you to somewhere, and that's all your life about it

like your life-partner, when suddenly you go out to buy cigarettes and you met her in the grocery

try to imagine.. there's too long to said

but anyway, when anyone here wanted to give up their life

please.. remember, for some instance, there will be something in the corner

you will never know that you will have a great change in your life very soon

the universe is so big and yet been discovered..

please stay alive so we will know the truth.

love my all readers.

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

people's world

currently, you name someone characteristics, behaviors, there will be at least one will be having that

it means, we have whatever kind of people

to make matter worst, sometimes we would hardly meet the people we wish to meet

why are this happening??

we will know it when we in need someone to talk to of something and we couldn't find the right person

for me, blogging is the best way

you see, people will always tell everything in their mind through blogging, they don't care who gonna view it, because they find some place to let go all inside of them

just like me~

try to notice, every person's blog..

they don't express and talk in their usual style when in real life

viewing blog is a way to get through one's people originality

agree? disagree?

Saturday, October 11, 2008

phases





how much thing to learn in this world?

what are we human suppose to and have to learn?

to make life meaningful, we have to understand something

we cannot straight away to understand everything.. it has phases

but eventually, human will automatically learn..

learning will never stop, learning will never cease

be it baby, children, adults, the elderly.. yea

baby learns to walk, taste, simple thing that will be used for the rest of life

children learns to talk, learn to mix, learn to live in community

adults learns to support, learns to differentiate, learns to live in a world

elderly learns to adapt, learns to be patient, learns to be understanding

well make sure you already acknowledge what you suppose to acknowledge when it came to your level

most of us will understand someday, but not when it is the time for them to suppose to understand

that is why, there are a lot of unhappiness going around

but hell.. life wouldn't be so perfect

if it is so perfect, it wouldn't be so fun anymore

anyway a little reminder here

whatever we do, please minimize the possibility of making anyone miserable

remember? learn to be individualism, and when it came to community, make sure it is something good and benefits everybody

Monday, October 6, 2008

gets a little hot

i am a cat, i was born with 2 siblings, unfortunately, both of them died, one fell down to the drain, another die of hungriness

when i was a baby, i have no place to go, except for the shady that humans built up

thankfully they always having some snack time under the tree and i always manage to get some of the leftovers

at first they don't care about me, but as time goes by, kids from the elders started to play along with me

seeing that i have no harm to the kids, the adults allow the kids to play with me

sometimes the adults would play with me too

one day, an auntie came to me, she pour some papers on the floor, i started to play along with the papers.. biting some of it, without realizing the paper has numbers written on it

there is this adult number game.. 4D or maybe "jackpot".. they bet the number i picked up, and eventually they won some prize from there.

they started to treat me real good, buying me cat biscuits, shower me with care and love

and there is this family who even allow me to loiter inside the house.. however i must get out when it was night for them to sleep

everybody started to like me and they even touch me, bath me.. what a cat am i

sometimes there would some male cats come and find me, i did entertain them as they were my cat families too

sometimes i felt pity for them as they do not get proper care and food

but anyway i do share my foods with them

i hope that this family will always keep me as a company

isn't that what every cat wish for?

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

are you feeling happy?







how to define happy?
being with friends? driving luxurious car? living in bungalow?

NO

living happy is when one knows that there is a person who they can count on

i mean really really count on for the rest of your life

if you said friends, hell no, someday they will get married and have their own family to support

parents, you know the answer is not!

yourself? everyone have ups and downs, no one is perfect, so when u are down, how?

THE ANSWER IS .....

A PARTNER

God created two types of human being, male and female

and they meant to live together..

but to find a partner can be counted on is really really really difficult

where to find a partner that can share fully of your ups.. downs.. feelings.. happiness.. everything

someday when you find one, that is your love

someone that you can tell everything.. including how many affairs you having outside, including your embarrassment, including your secret..

life only as one, no takes two

and you gonna live with the person who deserve that

choose wisely and appreciate once you found them, depreciate once you know they are not the one, don't waste your time and the other person time

life is a joke

and the joke is in your hand

play it to the happiest.. please

Thursday, September 18, 2008

all that i have








when we come into the world, we have nothing on us

no shirts, no cash, no credit cards

all we have are just tiny fingers, small hearts, small livers, small intestines.. etc

and all of this we will bring together to the grave

the point is.. good life is where we have a good health

don't stress yourself.. just live happily~

whats the point having lots of money but you are so stress...

whats the point having lots of money but afraid people will rob your fortune and kidnap your kids?

to me.. set yourself a target, where a target you will live happily and your life wont be always stressed out

don't ask for more, learn to be satisfy for being having a good health

be satisfy that you are actually happy and satisfy with your life

and i can tell that, the world is never fair enough, fortune of the world should be fairly shared by all the people

will the days come? yes no?

Friday, September 12, 2008

mindset






always people will do whatever in his minds.. or even doing it without realizing it

having mindset sometimes is good, but sometimes will drag you to hell

always observe people, always think, will it be better if adapt to changes?

or is it good to stay the same?

but no matter what, normally people will stay the same

that's bad.. because even there are better things, the people still don't know how to change and go for it

always learn from the best, change to better, take risk, go for it

don't always make the same mistake, learn - adapt - and execute!!!

Thursday, September 4, 2008

how long more?







Is human born and born to achieve perfection?

could be 100 years before human is weaker and not so good compare to now?

or isit getting worse?

why world record of Olympic keep on getting broken?

that's showing human is getting better and better..

when is the end? when will human really reach to the bestest?

will human have wings in the future?

will tomorrow there will be headlines saying a new born baby have wings?

anyone watch HEROES here? could that be some illustration of the future?

thanks HEROES for opening up minds of us

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did anyone think before why there is lives?

what is the purpose of human being? why are we created?

didn't it supposed to be empty for all whole universe?

imagine there is no planets.. all just empty and black.. no mars, no venus, no saturn, no nothing.. i mean the entire universe is empty

shouldnt it be that way??

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why we live without purpose? some people said, yeah we got purpose.. we want to drive BMW.. to be honest, thats not even be a purpose.. hell no.. human created BMW, why we going to things that human created?

some people say they want to enjoy love.. hell no.. love also coming from human wat..

i mean to be exact.. who created us? why created us? what the creator wants? who created the creator? why there are creation of all this?

no one would be able to give the answer but time..

time would be the answer, we will know someday

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live life to the fullest, do whatever you want

as long as you feel good and happy, you can just live along without thinking the purpose of life until someday "time" prove it.. k?

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Mayhem is Beautiful by Bushwalla ft. Dawn Mitschele





Dominoes by Dawn Mitschele




Peace of Mind songs , not too much punk and rock always

Thursday, August 14, 2008

current me



whats happening to me currently?

hurm.. just graduated from TARC, diploma in business studies e-commerce and marketing..

currently working in Standard Chartered Bank as a personal loan executive

a great paying job salary.. but i won't tell you how much i earn

but i am ma planning to build my career there.. is where a job i think i can be successful, can make my family proud, can make my friends jealous, and bring a satisfaction for me

but seriously.. if i were to choose.. schooling is better than working, a fact that is undeniable

my love life? is wonderful~~

friends circle? i am satisfy

family? just want them to live comfortable...

myself.. of course be successful

anyway a lil advice here

BALANCE OUT YOUR LIFE

make sure you have a balance life, balance mind.. spare time for work, spare time for sleep, spare time for family, spare time for love, spare time for friends, spare time for yourself :)

Monday, August 11, 2008

destination






first of all congratz to China for making it a fabulous identity to all the chinese people

simply proud to be chinese!

second of all, its all individualism, the way we succeed does not depends on anyone but you yourself

so no matter what religion, race you are, there's a successor

its all destined up!

how long more can we continue the world?

Of all the living people now, all of us will died in 100 years time, a new set of people who haven't born out gonna decide hows the world will be

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Some people need experience, some people born with natural experience

Some needed 10 years for same kind of experience, some needed 1 month..

and Some will never even understand even till death

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i still believing human is just part of our life

the real life of us, this spirit, are categorized

maybe human is the beginning.. maybe is the end.. maybe is in the middle

i guess is the beginning since we don't know anything about the past

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Our universe is so huge, but no one can really figure out whats there

even Mars.. is just a planet next to us, we still finding it hard to figure out things happening at there

believe me, when we are dead, we will be ended in some place

i also believe in karma.. which mean, doing good will turn you into something, doing bad will turn you to another thing

the best definition of doing good for me is, never make anyone miserable.. is the biggest sin.. that is why i believe in individualism

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make really good use of what is in your life now

play, have fun, go for it as long as it do good

everyone is good at something

make full use of your talent.. and i agree with a phrase for now being in this world.. " never do things that you are good at for free "

maybe in the future, i will advice you do it for free, but not now, not during this time

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but why i am so stupid now for doing things for free.. that is.. talking all this

but i just hope someone out there shares this with me, or maybe someone feels the same like me? please step forward because i still couldn't find anyone who would talk and say all this

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there is something in Music
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good luck~~

Monday, August 4, 2008

this and that



i started to believe that the recycle of human

if u can cope with me, just read along, if u don't then just forget bout it

i believe that from the first human(population) to now 2008

it was divided to categories..

first population would be innocence..

second population would be living together

third population would be discovering human's nature

fourth population would be greediness, negative values (wars)

fifth population would be improving lives

sixth population would be peace

seventh population would be peace and technology

eight population would be learn to be individualism

ninth population would be individualism but at the same can be socialism

tenth population would be work to survive, to cope (our population)

eleventh population would be natural disaster due to human ( something like the day after tomorrow )

twelfth population would be human living in diseases ( something like resident evil )

thirtieth population would be ( something like I am Legend )

anyone can imagine all this??

anyhow when can we reach a population where everybody do not need to work, but to enjoy life together and learn to share?

where all the greediness no more stuck in human's heart

where faith and love is committed?

no one knows what happen tomorrow..

maybe something happen tomorrow that will make us straight away jump into thirtieth population..

God please do not make this population suffer anymore.. end it or do something~

Sunday, August 3, 2008

‘She was ripe for the plucking’

By CHIN MUI YOON

This was the reason some convicted rapists gave for their crime to two researchers who visited prisons to interview sexual predators. Their recently published book sheds some light on why Malaysian men rape.

EVERY day an average of four women are raped. But we don’t hear or read about most of the cases, only the sickeningly brutal ones involving a child or ending in murder or both.

The names and faces of victims like computer analyst Canny Ong, 28, abducted from a basement car park, raped, killed and set on fire; engineer Noor Suzaily Mukhtar, 24, raped in a bus by the driver who later strangled her with her tudung and children like Nurul Huda Ghani, five, abducted and killed by a security guard in a TNB station and Nurin Jazlin Jaziman, eight, sodomised and murdered, are etched in the public’s collective mind.

We tend to believe that rapists are shadowy strangers lying in wait of an unsuspecting woman. The reality is that most victims were raped by someone they know, a friend, former partner, even a relative. Even those trusted in authority like parents, policemen, religious leaders and community elders have been charged with rape.

Rape is riddled with myths. Many perpetuate the belief that women are raped because they entice men with their dressing or behaviour. Religious leaders and politicians have fanned such myths that turn the spotlight onto the victim instead of the criminal.

Dr Rohana Ariffin, retired associate professor of Universiti Sains Malaysia Penang, and her former student Rachel Samuel, currently a lecturer with UiTM Malacca, decided to focus their research on the rapist instead.

For 10 months in 2003, both women conducted interviews with 90 convicted rapists currently detained in four prisons in Seremban, Johor Baru, Kajang and Sungai Buloh aged 20 to 72. Each rapist was asked open-ended questions to solicit their perception and attitudes towards women, sexual history and experiences.

Their findings were published in a handbook, Rapist & Rape – Who & Why which was launched by Women, Family and Community Development Minister Datuk Dr Ng Yen Yen last month. It is a follow-up on their earlier study in 1997 from interviews with rapists in Taiping and Penang.

“We hoped that an insight into their thoughts, feelings, perception and attitude would help reduce the number of rape incidents in Malaysia,” says Dr Rohana at a recent interview in Petaling Jaya, Selangor.

“Our study offers a socio-economic profile of the rapists and understanding their family background. We wanted to know, what precedes their crime?”

She stresses that their research had limitations.

“We were only allowed to meet with each rapist once for two hours,” she says. “As such, our study only obtained some indicators of their background and reasons for committing rape. A psychological profile of the offenders would require more extensive interviews and research.”

Who, what...

From just 138 cases in 1980 to 912 in 1994, the number rose to 2,431 cases in 2006 and 3,177 last year. Between 2000 to 2006, Selangor and Johor recorded the highest numbers of rape while Perlis had the lowest number. For 2006, Selangor recorded 421 rapes and Johor 343.

These are just the known cases reported to the Royal Malaysian Police. Researchers believe there are numerous unreported cases of incest or acquaintance rapes.

Malays commited 66.3% of reported rape cases, followed by 15.3% by “others”, who are natives of Sabah and Sarawak and foreign workers comprising mainly Indonesians. Chinese are the perpetrators in 10.5% of the cases and Indians in the remaining 7.8%.

Many offenders are aged between 45 and 55. The most common types of rape they committed were incest and acquaintance rape. Ironically, 82% of respondents over the age of 50 raped girls aged 16 and below. The trend continues today with rape victims becoming increasingly younger.

The majority grew up in rural areas, including Felda schemes (71.1%), and had low education levels. Most are married and reported good relationships with their mothers but not their fathers. Their views concerning females are, in general, degrading and humiliating. They see rape as a sexual act rather than as a violent crime.

...Why

“They often cited, suka sama suka, meaning they believed it was consensual sex,” explains Dr Rohana. “Or they’d say, she was ripe for the plucking. One said the victim was manja (acting cuddly and pampered) with me. But that was the rapist’s granddaughter!

“Some believe rape is where force was used. So having sex with the victim isn’t rape to them. They are ignorant that rape is also caused by persuasion, coercion, manipulation and relationship power between an older person and a young victim.”

Indeed, some of the men convicted for date rape or statutory rape told the researchers that sex was consensual and it was the girls’ parents who reported them because they disliked the men’s low-income jobs.

The rapists also blamed pornography and uncontrolled lust as the main factors which caused them to rape. Only two of them said women were to blame but over 60% agreed that women were temptresses.

Asked why they did not turn to prostitutes to release their uncontrollable lust, the rapists replied that prostitutes were “repulsive” and “dirty”.

What was it like meeting 90 rapists face to face?

“I must admit it was depressing entering a prison, but we prepared ourselves mentally and emotionally each time we set off. We could not show our feelings and kept cool at all times,” says Dr Rohana.

“Even so, I could not help feeling heated during one interview. I raised my voice at a 60-year-old man who took his little granddaughter into a palm oil estate and raped her. Another said, Jika makanan sudah dihidang, kalau saya tak makan, lalat akan turun. Biar saya yang makan (If food is served and I do not eat it, the flies will come. Let me be the one who consumes it).

“Similarly, a 55-year-old who raped his teenage neighbour as his wife had reached menopause, stated, Nak tidur, bantal pun sampai, kita pun tidurlah (Want to sleep and the pillow is here. May as well sleep on it).

“It was hardest to speak to people who had abused their positions of power, like a religious head who raped the teenage girls volunteering to serve in the temple under the full trust of their parents.”

Samuel found most of the rapists forthcoming and willing to talk.

“Most said they didn’t use force to have sex,” she says. “A music composer convicted of statutory rape against his teenaged stepdaughter passionately declared, ‘I am a lover, not a killer!’.

“He said his stepdaughter is a ‘hot blooded teenager who needed to be taught the right way to enjoy sex’.”

Many of the men committed incest while their wives were in menopause, pregnant, or unavailable for sex. When the men couldn’t control their urges, they sought the easiest women they could find.

“Most of them had a propietary attitude of ‘she’s mine anyway’,” says Samuel.

Breeding ground

An interesting point unearthed was that the median age of the Malaysian rapist was 41.7, with incest rapists at 47 and date rape perpetrators at 37. In comparison, rapists in developed nations like the United States, 80% are below 30 and 75% under 25.

“In more developed nations we find younger perpetrators and stranger rape cases. With rapid urbanisation in Malaysia, will the category of rape and the origins of rapists shift due to the ‘overcrowded rat syndrome’, with younger men coming from high density flats and condominiums?” queries Dr Rohana.

She adds, “We are breeding a culture of poverty. People grow up resenting others and they transfer that aggression to the easiest victim they find. I hope our structure of housing can be more humane and not resemble pigeon holes in the sky. We need sustainable family planning especially among the low income group. Seldom do we find a sociologist on planning boards during development.”

Past president of the Malaysian Institute of Architects (PAM) Dr Tan Loke Mun disagrees that confined and crowded living quarters are breeding grounds for rapists.

“We don’t find an increase of rape in densely populated cities like in Hong Kong, Singapore, China, Japan or Scandinavian countries where land is scarce and expensive,” he argues.

“Rape is due to moral decline in a society. More rapes happen in rural areas. (Ironically) imposing an unrealistic and totally inhibitive moral standard on people is more likely to turn them the other way. We may have parks for recreation but most are under-used. The old gathering spaces were parks, markets or piazzas. These spaces have evolved into shopping malls, cinemas, waterfronts and food and beverage outlets.

“Developers allocate a minimum of 10% of land into recreational space. But once it’s handed over to the local councils, that’s when you see deterioration.”

Urban decay

“Rape is a worrying trend although Malaysia still has a low rate compared with other countries,” says criminologist and Universiti Sains Malaysia’s School of Social Science lecturer Dr P. Sundramoorthy, adding that for the first time, crime was an agenda for the March 8 elections.

“A major contributing factor is urbanisation which has led to dramatic lifestyle changes. Our crime rate is a typical symptom of rapidly developing nations. We have seen more crimes in the last 20 or 30 years than in the previous century.

“As our population grows, we have more accessibility to information including sex materials. There is no conclusive research that pornography leads to rape, but a higher number of rapists tend to view it habitually so it is a contributing factor.”

Is there hope of rehabilitation for the rapist? The Malaysian Penal Code Section 376 states that offenders shall be punished with imprisonment of a term not less than five years and liable for whipping. Despite the severe punishment, many are recidivists or repeat offenders.

“Back in the mid-1990s I took some students to work on research on rapists. We were startled to see some of these men being caught for rape again after their release from prison,” says Dr Sundramoorthy.

“There have been calls to rehabilitate rapists, or to chemically castrate them as practised in some European nations. But research has shown that even with castration, the rapist still rapes habitually. What we need is to impose maximum jail time for even first-time offenders and not leave it at the whim and fancy of a judge.”

Teach respect

Despite years of progress and change, women are still objectified as commodities. They are still blamed for rape from the way they dress, talk or behave.

In June, Munirah Bahari, vice president of the National Islamic Students’ Association of Malaysia, caused a furore by stating that school girls’ white baju kurung was too sexy and lured rapists. Similarly, the Kelantan Government forbade women to wear coloured lipstick or high heels as these are deemed enticing to men.

Dr P. Sundramoorthy points out that the media is also fond of magnifying cases where attractive women are raped. It perpetuates the idea that only beautiful women get raped.

“Blaming women for rape is a worldwide phenomenon and not just in Malaysia,” he says. “Infants, the elderly and women from various ethnic groups and religions and in all shapes and sizes have been victims. Yet, people will continue believing that dressing sensuously will cause people to rape, or going out at 3am, or other stereotyping.”

While it is impossible to obtain zero rape as deviant acts can never be achieved, Dr Sundramoorthy says society can minimise the crime, starting with education from an early age.

“People must be aware of these social issues and men especially need this education,” he says. “We must start human social behaviour education from the age of 10. And boys especially must be taught to respect women.

“The age for statutory rape should also be raised from 16 to 18. Teenagers may be physically ready for sex, but are they mentally or emotionally prepared? The age for buying alcohol should also be raised to 21. There is no conclusive study showing alcohol is a cause for rape but directly or indirectly, alcohol accessibility has been a factor in many cases.”

Women themselves have a role to play.

“Some women also accept a patriarchal system in society,” explains Dr Rohana. “They are trained from young to believe that they have to be gentle, sweet and submissive. A man rapes a woman as a way of putting her in her place.

“Additionally, our capitalist economy sells women as the weaker sex. In a conservative society, the victim is blamed. But women cannot be responsible for men’s actions! If a shoplifter is caught, do we blame the merchandise for looking too attractive?”

Adds Samuel, “In conclusion, rape is mainly a question of unequal power relations and a distorted perception and attitude towards gender or women.”

‘Rapist & Rape – Who & Why’ is published by the Education and Research Association for Consumers, Malaysia (ERA Consumer, Malaysia), a non-profit and non-political organisation. Free copies of the book are available. Contact ERA Consumer at No 24, Jalan SS1/22A or call 03-7877 4741 / 03-7876 4648 or visit eraconsumer.org

Taken from thestar.com.my

Sunday, July 27, 2008

Just Once



actually to be with the one u loved is a happy thing

What if, you love more than one people?

why do human keep wanting more?

isit correct of what we said money is the root of the evil?

isit money should be created at the very first time, first place

is this how exactly God wanted it to go in the beginning

would there be a massive changes in the way of human living in the future?

how to keep human satisfy?

why there are poor people in this world

and why there are extremely rich people in this world?

why cant all of us living in the same level?

peace is all we ever wanted

life of comfort is all what we are aiming

love and to be loved

happy and satisfy, who wouldnt aiming it?

even the richest and the poorest has this same motive..

some people are rich, but they dun get satisfy, peace, love, everything thats comfort..

some people are poor but they think rich can buy them all these

this is a concept that will never change in today's world

God.. save this humanity please

Sunday, July 20, 2008

Death and the meaning of life

By CELINE S.W. TANG

Sometimes, it takes a big loss to remind us how much we have, and how much we should appreciate it while we have it.

RECENTLY, my friend lost her father. I stared in disbelief at the receiver in my hand as I digested the news, hoping that it was just a bad joke but it was not.

Memories came flooding back of the time I lost my beloved grandfather, two years earlier.

He had gone for a heart bypass operation after complaining of chest pains.

I remember watching him pack his clothes, getting ready to be sent to the hospital. He walked out of the house together with my father and got into the car.

I did not know then that he would not be coming home.

The day before the operation, my mother had to feed him his dinner. It was the first and last time she fed him as that was also to be his last meal.

On the morning of the operation, we all went to the hospital. I remember that it was a gloomy Friday morning and school was closed for a holiday.

When we reached my grandfather’s ward, he was prepared but looked nervous and worried.

We accompanied him as he was pushed to the operating theatre and said our goodbyes but my father told us to say “see you later” instead. I did not think that it made any difference then.

Later in the evening, we visited him in the intensive care unit (ICU) ward after the operation. He was hooked up to various tubes and life support machines and he looked so frail and weak.

We had to take turns to see him. We went home in the hope that he would be in a stable condition the next day.

The next morning when we visited him, he was conscious but in so much pain. He fidgeted so much and struggled to take out the oxygen mask to talk to us. He was told to rest and was later sedated.

Over the next few days, we spent our nights and days in the hospital as he had to undergo more operations to his stomach and kidney due to some complications.

My grandfather was always a strong man, mentally and physically. He fought hard to live and he survived the two operations.

We felt helpless and had only words of encouragement everyday. “You can do it, stay strong,” we encouraged him.

When we were told that his chances of survival were slim, our relatives from Penang and Singapore came to visit him.

In the early hours of Oct 27, 2006, the dreaded call rang from the hospital. We had to rush to see him for the last time.

My grandfather lay there, so still and pale next to the machines. His fingers were swollen and the tips were black.

As we stood by his side, holding his unresponsive hands, rivers of tears flowed. We told him that he could still do it, to stay strong and we filled him with encouraging words to live.

However, in that moment of truth, we realised that we had to end his suffering. It was time to release him and the encouraging words were not the words he waited to hear.

He was always a proud man with strong principles and always fought for his rights. We knew he was losing the battle due to his heart.

He knew, too, that had he lived on, he would not be the same man who would be on his own two feet with his head held high.

He also loved us too much for us to be burdened with a bed-ridden, dependent, old man.

We finally relented and told him, “We will understand this most difficult decision that you have to make and we love you just the same. We apologise for any wrongdoings on our part and we forgive you, too.”

We told him to give us a sign if he could hear us and miraculously, a tear rolled down from his eyes. There were no last words but we understood. Minutes later, at 6.40am, he left us, looking relaxed and peaceful.

We do not know when our loved ones will leave us. As teenagers, we will often have arguments with our siblings or our parents, but no matter what, they still love us and we still love them. Therefore, we have to leave our loved ones with loving words, always.

My grandfather is gone but his memories lives on. He was not a wealthy man but he left behind a precious gift — Life, with a new beginning and new meaning.

From him, I learned to understand life better, to cherish what I have and to treasure the people around me.

Taken from thestar.com.my

Thursday, July 17, 2008

IMAGINE the unimaginable!!!







Suddenly i have the burst to say this

God give us brain to think.. a lot of things

and eventually is everything

don't forget that we have the ability to imagine

I wonder why God do let us to imagine..

and my possible answer is that..

everything that could be imagined is something that could be possible to be happening..

anyone agree? disagree?

you see... the world today.. everything possible today, is something that is not happening in the past

could u imagine of flying?

i think everyone of us did

and that could be happening if one day something happen to our gravity system =)

MY BIGGEST DREAM..

i wish i could go to other planets other than Earth..

i mean go there just have a walk.. experience.. feel lolz

and see things that no one has ever seen before

I could imagine of that!!!

and it will come true.. definitely~

Monday, July 14, 2008

shut up if








sometimes i am too much on grumbling and sounded like counselor or holy people..
but who i am? i have nothing..
i am not successful, i still haven't show people that i am capable

its true.. why should people listen to you when you are a failure

for me.. people who still haven't achieve anything, is a failure
people who still haven't get respect truthfully inside...

i will shut my lips tight if necessary

I wanna prove to the world that i am different, i am stand out

i work twice harder, i think more deeper, i sacrifice more, i am just too much for a normal person

make sure your parents have a good life that you are able to give them while you still can

because we will never know what happens tomorrow

fulfill their unfulfilled dream

let say, they want a maid.. give them
let say, they drive old car, get them a new automated car
let say, they hardly walk in their room, buy them a bigger comfortable house
let say, they are bored in the house, buy them a nicest living room installed with LCD screen, finest stereo, Astro, Air-con
let say, they just living in Malaysia since their born, spend them travel (they have not as much as time as you do, please, life is just one, there is no take two)

So as long as you can work from now, go for it, find the bestest opportunity in a fastest legal way, work smarter, work harder

because you know only you have the chance to do this, its not your parents era anymore, its your world, its your time, its your bestest start

if you want to count it on your siblings, are you sure they will able to give this? are you even they can give, they will give? are you sure you won't feel guilty?

all is in your own, own hand...

take control over it, you know your parents can count on you

Saturday, July 12, 2008

Graduation Day

Thank you Ashley!

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

LOVE







what love is it to me?
personally i think love is a wonderful thing
it changes everything
no matter who you are, you need love, or else you will have mental problem
to love is nothing
to be loved is something
to love and to be loved is everything

and i believe in a phrase.. "love yourself before you love anything else"

and i believe love don't sees appearance

no matter you are fat, ugly, short, thin, handicapped, or different races.. love will blind all that

I strongly believe, girls are from love planet, they really really love a person if they love a person.. and they won't be thinking anything else

For guys, there are from earth planet, where everything can take place, no matter how deep, how true, how crazy a guy likes a gal, believe me, sometimes they still will sees girls around... not to say they do not love their girl, but this is our nature

And for girls, no matter what the guys did, girls still forgive them if true love exist

Girls are emotional, guys are rational.. agree?

Love can be proved when.. they can still understand even without a word spoken

Love can be proved when.. there are no sexual contact but still can be real happy

Love can be proved when.. you can be all yourself to each other

Once you found some people like this, you will be smiling all your way B-)

Sunday, July 6, 2008

When things seem not right







Am i too much on grumbling?
or are you all still hoping i will post advices?
when things seem not right?
its normal
successful people don't just always successful
the more failure they have, the more chances of being successful
this is for sure.. for example
the more girls you chase, the more girls you get
the more money you make, of course your money will growing bigger
the more post u posted, the more people will come to your blog
the more sales call you made, the more chances you getting sales
the more effort you put in, the more outcome you get
the more failure you face, the more chances of being successful
and words ain't easier than actions
so start moving up when things seem not right
there are always obstacle, to the road of success.. it wont be a straight road
it crosses mountain, damps, rivers, seas, universe
it turn left, turn right, it get narrows, it get wider
there are holes, there are dogs, there are road blocks
there are rainbows, there are kind people, there are bad people
there are rains, there are sunshine
and it will takes you to a place you've been setting it up

words wont be better than action, words wont be better than watching a movie

i strongly encourage my readers who never watch "Pursuit of Happyness", by Will Smith to watch it